The Curse of Incompleteness.

Oh god... we havent lost you to the dark side have we????

Fri at 5:34pm · Delete

Debbie Quintero

Jesus is not the dark side. He is the light. Satan is dark and evil. I Pray that one day you will find his eternal life and you will then see what I am talking about. If you don't find it you will never see the kingdom of God ( heaven). Harsh reality I know but God's word is my confimation. God's word is the truth.

12 hours ago

No Offence Debbie, but as the old russian proverb goes: "Go to heaven for the weather, go to hell for the company."

4 hours ago · Delete

Debbie Quintero

I don't know about any russian proverb, never heard it but I don't listen to old wives tales or proverbs. Except the Proverbs in the Bible. The book next to Psalms.There is no offense taken here. I know I want to go to heaven for more than the weather it will be to see my Savior that died for me. As for going to hell to see my friends or be with company that is just what satan wants you to think. That you will be having a party with your friends side by side. So far from the truth. There will be fire, waling and gnashing of teeth. Matthew 25:46 And these will depart into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.Revelations 20:14 Then Death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire. This is the second death – the lake of fire. 15 If anyone’s name was not found written in the book of life, that person was thrown into the lake of fire.
I am sad for you that you don't care whether you live eternal life in hell or not. It gives you no hope and it just saddens my heart. Debbie

about an hour ago

I dont believe in your book any more than I believe in Harry Potter, since they both have about the same basis in reality. And what the russian proberb means is that I would rather spend my waking and after life with people who actually LIVED their life, learned to think and were aware while still alive, as opposed to people who spent their entire time on earth worrying about what happens after. And people whose sole experience of life can be confined to one book and one experience. Out of respect for AJ I'm done having this conversation.

about an hour ago · Delete

Debbie Quintero

Sorry to hear you don't believe in the Gods word. One day you will regret you said that and you will be reminded of this conversation. As for your life, you spend it whatever way you feel you need to. As for my life I don't worry about my eternity. I have the hope of Christ and He gives me a eternal peace. I feel so sad for your soul Shane. May God touch you in His mighty way. AJ's Aunt Deb

58 minutes ago

Richard Jenkins - THE VISITOR

Debbie, I will not regret living my life fully. Nor will I ever regret not believing in one of the worlds many religions. As has been demonstrated throughout history, the righteous have brought nothing but division, hate, war and death (with the only exception being Buddhism). And while you can defend and argue that point until you are blue in the face, it will not change the fact. Religion is simply a way to control thought and separate the human race from each other.

Religion is an excuse to not be responsible for your own life. "God will provide, Jesus will guide me, etc..." I am responsible for my life, not some fiction of imagination. I have made my mistakes and I have worked hard for my miracles. I am alive NOW, not after I die.

I'm sorry to have declined your offer of friendship, it is not a reflection on you personally. I just don't want Jesus crap on my page every day. I cant be engaged with an organization that consciously ignores fact, logic and reason, just so they don't have to reconcile reality and fantasy.

The ability to think for ourselves is one of the best parts of being human, and I'm sorry to say Christians do very little other than tell people that they are bad and wrong, and that only they are right and just. Any proof of that can be seen in all of your messages, and to be perfectly honest not only is it insulting but it just demonstrates your christian arrogance and one sided thinking. And personally I neither need nor do I want your phony christian sympathy. I don't fear for my soul, and you don't even know me.

Some fun at the park...

2009-09-21T20:16:00.000-07:00

A few weeks ago Mother Mary Diva asked if Danny and I liked concerts... Before we could give the obvious answer she presented us with the opportunity to go with her to the Outsidelands Concert in Golden Gate Park. We went both Saturday and Sunday and had a blast... Here's a few pics.

My future husband and hang out buddy... the dreamy and quite silly Jason Mraz... Top big act of the weekend... Plus he reminds me of Steph because he played what she likes to call "Fun with Humans".

Lead singer Brandon Boyd of Incubus

The always dreamy Eddie Veder and Pearl Jam

Nice view while waiting to go home on day one.

This guy is also quite cute, and looks quite a bit like Tobey McGuire undercover. Conor Oberst has a sweet voice, but I thought the four guitars drowned it out a bit, but they got rocking once the set began. So cute though...

This is where we watched most of the Black Eyed Peas from... We went up closer to the stage, but the youngins started getting roudy... or what they call "dancing"... whatever it was I was tired of having hot boys spill beer on me so we made our way to the tent.

By far the best group of the entire show was a troupe called The Yard Dog Road Show. They were utterly unique and facinating to watch. They hooked me, and I went back for every show. It was like a shared orgasm between the group and the audience... yeah... that good.

In this tent... made just for them.

Closing out the weekend was Tenacious D. Jack Black is a funny guy. And his on stage break up/make up/song was hilarious. However, as his set was beginning the fog was rolling in off the sea and the sweaty hot weather turned chilly and dropped a good thirty degrees and I figured I could always just go home and rent the movie.

Amazing weekend all around. Thanks Mother Mary Diva!!!!

My misspent youth of Folly; part 2

2009-09-05T01:49:00.000-07:00

The first time "gay" really became an issue was near the end of high school. I was pretty confident in my choice to accept homosexuality, and thanks to my parents I never looked at it being wrong. I did, however understand that being gay was not popular, and that it could be very dangerous around the wrong kind of people. I learned ways to hide it and mask it and use it to amuse all while skipping gaily around from school to school and therapist to therapist.

In my junior year I was hanging out with my neighbor Melissa in her spa with another girlfriend from drama class (Mariah?), when the ever wandering teenage minds led inevitably to the wonderful game of truth or dare... and yeah... it was my first truth... thanks Mellisa, you get the honor of being the first person I ever came out to. And (Maya?) your... uh... second.

My first crush that I ever came out to was a jock on the football team named Kevin Chapin. Oh god, even now, I think of him and that amazing square jaw, piercing eyes, a body that knew nothing of gravity and seemed to ripple with muscle as he bounced around. Yeah, I had it bad. I started getting to know him because I was (for some unexplainable teaching torture) the sports writer for the school paper. So I needed someone to explain what the rules were... and what you call that one thing... and whats with all the numbers your supposed to remember... bleh, football, I still dont get it.

Well during one of these phone call bull sessions it somehow came up that he had defended my heterosexuality to a couple of his team mates. Probably because I couldnt see his face I suddenly felt bold enough to say "thanks, that was decent of you man. But I am gay." I waited for what seemed like forever in my gay teen universe until he says "...oh yeah? You been cornholed yet?"

As any budding gay will tell you, we are nothing if not witty and quick on our feet... So my brilliant responce was "uhh.. yeah. well, um... actually yeah, I lost my virginity when I was twelve. To both the male and the female variety... no, not at the same time." He responded with a sentence that I have never forgotten because of how much it summed him and that entire friendship up "I'm not gay. I ask because I want you to know that my mind goes a lot further than my body ever will."

I saw him again at the 10 year reunion, he still had that spark. That little twinkle in his eye. He had gotten stocky and was a high school teacher in Flagstaff, Arizona. He married a beautiful and amazingly charming and conscience girl and they seemed happy. I wish him well and said lets keep in touch, but after two or three un-returned emails I gave up and chose to put that crush away.

My misspent youth of folly; part 1

2009-08-07T14:19:00.001-07:00

I came to understand what "gay" was pretty early on in life.

I remember having crushes on the boys in class as early as second grade. The only "first crush" that I can really remember to this day was a boy in my junior high school named Jake Crouch. He was on the wrestling team with my brother. I remember talking to him and both of us were so shy and quiet that it was amazing we got more than a few words out. Just when I thought I might be making my very first friend/crush the family moved away to California... I wrote him several letters, but I never heard from him again.

I was pretty lucky when it comes to the whole "gay" thing and my family. When I was three or four a therapist that my mom had taken me to, took her to the side and told her that he suspected that I might have homosexual tendencies and that he was going to work out a program for her to follow to try and dissuade me from becoming an active homosexual.

My mom looked at him with that look, and then she turned to me, playing with the toys on the floor and said "Shane, get your coat on sweetie, we're going to get some ice cream now." I of course was over joyed... I was three. The therapist tried to grasp what was going on, but my mom cut him short by saying "Thank you for your time, but we wont be returning. I love my son, just as he is, gay or not, and I wont expose him to you again. Good night." And out we went to the fabled 31 flavors, where I had my cone of pink bubblegum and was none the wiser.

So growing up, my parents always knew that I was gay. It wasnt a good/bad right/wrong fix/cure kind of conversation for them. It was an IS. Shane IS gay. Now, adjust our way of thinking so that we can be happy and raise him with love. Yeah... total hippies. Yes, we went to the John Lennon memorial at Red Rocks, yes, I remember it. Free from religion, yet still somehow learned all the moral lessons of life. Looking back, it was a pretty great way to grow up.

The "gay" issue never really was an issue for me in school early on because I changed schools so often. Following around the special ed program with my "emotional issues" meant that I had to go to a different school every year. I formed no childhood bonds. I had my family and my brother. Makes sense now that I always got along better with my mom and dads friends than anyone my age. It was who was around to talk to and learn from.

My weekends ecstacy...

2009-07-29T00:02:00.001-07:00

I was out doing my least favorite thing this weekend (shopping for clothes for myself), and I was trying to find some cool looking black comfortable shoes that I could wear with business clothes at work...

I had been to Macy's a couple weeks earlier and seemed to remember a cool looking set of Puma's that I wouldn't pay that much for... so I thought I would go back and see if they had anything on sale.

I found the shoes that I wanted the last time, and they had been marked down so much that I was able to buy both the black shoes and the white shoes for the price of one!!

I don't know about the rest of you, but I love what this recession is doing to retail prices!! I can finally shop at the froo froo shii shii stores without feeling snooty!!

Taxed for the Nose

2009-07-23T14:38:00.000-07:00

During my time in the navy I had access to more medical attention than at any point previously in my life. I took advantage of the free medical benefits several times over my time in the service.

In boot camp, even though it didn't need to be done, I allowed them to remove all four of my wisdom teeth. I don't really remember it that well because as is usually the case, they had some damn fine drugs!

I remember their off the wall reason for wanting to remove my wisdom teeth despite the fact that none of them were impacted and they would have had plenty of room to come in due to the rather large gaps between all my front teeth. "There wont be any dentists in the field, and if you get stationed on a small ship it could be months between available dentists." So they took them out in boot camp on the off chance that they might have to come out eventually. Love it. Well, at least it got me four days in bed during one of the roughest weeks of boot camp... score!

I eventually got the dentist on base in San Diego to fix all those gaps with a bit of bonding... Always drove me crazy having all those gaps. Now they're gone and I didn't have to pay a cent!!

My friend Jennifer, that was stationed on base, went on leave for a couple weeks in February of 98 and when she came back I couldn't help but notice the change... While on leave she had gone from a "B" cup to a "D" cup. Being gay I thought her boobs were just fine the way they were. But when I noticed the change in her posture and body as well as in her attitudel I had to ask why.

She said that having bigger breasts has been on her mind for most of her adult life, and now that she was in the military she was finally in a position to do something about it. I asked her what she meant and so she told me about a little known rule that the military offers to its members, every member is entitled to one elective surgery.

Now, I'm sure the only reason this rule exists at all is because NO ONE knows about it. Well, and for this one very specific reason: They want their soldiers to be confident, and sometimes (as in Jennifer's' case) what it takes to build a soldiers confidence is a little change, be it mental or physical. So in short, Jennifer got her breast enlargement because the Navy Doctors thought it would help with her self confidence.

Well, regardless of the boobs, Jennifer was a very beautiful girl. So I secretly wondered if her looks, and not this hidden rule, had gotten her male Doctors to approve her surgery. So I figured, what the hell, I've got nothing to lose by trying!!

My nose had always been a bit of a bother through my adolescence and young adulthood. It was slightly crooked. I snored badly because of my inability to breath through my nose. I had a deviated septum, some loose floating cartilage deforming part of my lip. If you looked up the nostrils you could see the cartilage that was supposed to be attached to the skin but wasn't.

But the absolute worst thing about my nose, which pissed me off anytime anyone mentioned it, or made fun of it, was that if you tilted your head slightly, the bulbous curve of the nose combined with the cleft that ran down through the button of the nose looked to many people like the head of a penis. So yeah, I wanted to ask the doctor about fixing my cock-nose, and no, it didn't actually help me sniff out the cock, thanks for asking, and no you weren't the first.

So I went to Doctor number one and said "Doctor, I'm having trouble breathing through my nose." He looked at it and sent me on to Doctor number two who also looked and then conversed with Doctor number one, who then came back to me and said "we're going to have you go see an ENT Doctor over at the main hospital. So they made me an appointment and away I went.

Doctor David Bloom can only be described as a younger, better looking Anderson Cooper. Yeah... ponder that for a moment... just to see if it's possible to get a younger cuter Anderson Cooper. I could barley breath let alone talk to him, he was just sooooooooo dreamy. God, I still get butterflies thinking about how hot he was.

Ok, where was I... Oh, so Doctor Bloom asked me what the problem was, and I looked into his ice water blue eyes and said "Doctor, I'm having trouble breathing through my nose." He then touched my face for about 15 minutes while I tried every trick I could think of not to get aroused. Finally in his soft southern voice he says (whatever it was, I was too busy watching his lips to listen to him thoroughly), "...we'll get you into surgery next week and you will need two weeks off from the boat for recovery."

The day of the surgery rolled around and my bestie Stacey drove down from MV to bring me home to my parents house for the two weeks of recovery. I remember very little of the surgery except that I was conscience and talking to the surgeon. When it was all over they wheeled me into the reception room so Stacey could take me home, and Dr Bloom knelt down and gave me my prescription for the pain and some instructions on how to take care of my nose in the mean time...

Right after surgery when the patient is cracked out of his gourd on the anesthetic drugs is probably NOT the best time to give a person detailed instructions. So when my two weeks had gone by and I went back to Dr. Bloom for my check up he chided me in that cute southern voice that I didn't heed his instructions... to which I replied, "what instructions?"

After he had removed the splints from my nose and it fell into it's permanent position, there was a knock on the door and in came the surgeon that had actually done my nose. Another good looking man, boy did I get stationed at the wrong place!! He came in looked at my nose, and then took a seat so I could look him right in the face. Then he said "I don't normally do the follow up interview, but I had to come and talk to you when you were sober."

Instantly panic started going through my head... This was why I didn't drink, I had to remain in control of my mouth, Don't ask, Don't tell was a new law and I had no idea what I had said under the influence of all those drugs... God I hoped I hadn't said anything incriminating, because although they were Doctors, they were also Military Officers and if I had come out or hit on them while I was under... well, you can see where my mind wanted to go...

But he looked at me and continued "I had to come and talk to you sober, because I'm telling you, I have never laughed so hard in all my life." I stared at him with a blank look of confusion, so he went on "You don't remember any of it? Man, we gave you that local anesthetic and normally that makes people zone out, but you, man you were in it every step of the way... Eyes open, talking, telling jokes, man, you made me laugh so hard I almost botched your nose... TWICE!!"

The three of us had a few more laughs as he recounted my altered wit and finished checking my nose. The floating cartilage that had always given me such a perfect ability to imitate the Elvis upper lip had been removed so my lips now worked perfectly and my nose became very Roman (or so people have told me ever since). The absolute best part of this experience... well other than the two beautiful doctors, was the fact that I didn't have to pay a single cent for my nose and teeth. You did.

So, I guess I should take this opportunity to say Thank you to all of you who were paying your taxes in 1998, not only did you pay my salary, but you also paid for my teeth and my fabulous new nose, not to mention Jenn's big boobs!

Haha, Isn't life just the most interesting trip??

30 Minute fly by...

2009-07-23T00:04:00.000-07:00

This evening as I was lounging about the house I got a knock on the door and in walked two divas. Fresh from the salon and on the way to many fabulous parties, the two divas (to be named later) popped in to drop off their purses and have a shot of liquid courage... It takes a lot to be so glamorous!

They looked so fabulous I couldn't help but to grab the camera and snap away...

I love nights with random surprises...

Now... the task remains... what do we call these diva? No proper drag queen goes by a name she gave herself... it takes a community. So, all you Queens out there, lets name these girls!! Leave them on the comments!

Mom's Inspired Punishments

2009-07-20T00:01:00.000-07:00

To say I was an unruly boy would sadly, be putting it mildly.

I spent my youth pushing every envelope I could find. I had mastered the art of manipulation, and learned to work both my parents and the "way things were".

My parents, although hippies, were not against spanking with a belt. And there were countless times when we asked for it just as hard as we got it. Two boys need to be shown limits and discipline. The other favorite punishment method for my parents was to make us stand in the corner.

While this started all loose and easy with a stool facing a wall, with my inventiveness and devious nature, putting me in the corner became a spectator sport. It started by them taking the stool away because I would just go to the corner and nap. Then it became them literally putting my nose in the corner til I could reach out my tongue and touch it. That came about because I would watch tv and only put my face toward the corner when they turned to look at me.

Then came the mirrors. I would always find a way to sneak one to the corner with me. Or grab one when they let me use the bathroom. I would watch tv while facing the corner and they were none the wiser for a while... always just for a while. I think the corner punishment stopped somewhere around the same time that I started doing headstands with my nose in the corner. How can you stay mad at that???

There was also the "you cant come out of your room til it's clean" punishment. Never worked very well on me either. The one thing my dad said he always admired me for was my commitment. When he told me not to come out til it was clean, I didn't come out. I stayed in my room for weeks... only coming out for food and the bathroom. I would just go off in my head and play with my toys. Weeks of a dirty room would go by until finally they would just hang their heads and accept that I was going to live in a dirty bedroom.

Chuck would come up and sit down and give me a lecture about cleaning ones room and doing what your told and all. I would roll my eyes and leave the room as soon as he was done. I would run outside and play, go downstairs to watch tv, go play in the downstairs bedroom... but when I went to bed that night, I would clean my room. It would usually take me about twenty minutes, and I would go to bed after. I can still remember how they had chuckled the next morning about how stubborn I was.

But twice, my mom concocted what can only be described as the most diabolically clever punishments to punish me and teach me my lesson.

The first was more of a physical punishment. When I was in the fifth grade I was the very first stop on a very long bus ride through the mountains to school. Josh always went to a different school than me, so he never missed his bus. There were several mornings when I accidentally missed the bus and then a few mornings when I "accidentally" missed the bus. Mom worked down in Denver so she left before we had to be at the bus.

On those days that I missed the bus, I would call Mom at work and let her know. Mom would do one of two things. She would come home on her lunch and drive me to school, or she would yell at me and then tell me that she would be checking my schoolwork when she got home. I would then spend the entire day playing and watching tv. Then I would pass off old schoolwork as the stuff I had spent the day doing. I told you... sneaky little boy!!

Missing the bus got to be a bit too much of a habit so my mom though of a perfect way to make me stop. One random morning I didn't feel like going to school, and so when Josh and I left for the bus, he went in one direction toward his stop, and I went a little way toward my stop and then walked right back to the front door when he had gone over the hill.

I took off my clothes and got into my pj's. Had a bowl of cereal, turned the tv on, got my breath going and my emotion up, and dialed Mom's work number. She picked up the phone and since I had been holding my breath I let out a breathless story about how I had run after the bus for a good ways, but she never saw me... And how sorry I was, and I wouldn't let it happen again and yadda yadda yadda... Mom wouldn't give up this time though. She just kept saying you better start walking. She played the usual disapproving parent, scolded me and told me that I need to start walking to school and that she was going to check with the school to see what time I got there. I reminded her that while I was ten and kinda smart, I only knew the bus route to school and that drive took almost 30 minutes alone, and I surely would get lost. I told her I knew what they would be covering in school and that she could check my work when she got home. She said she had to go and I hung up the phone and settled in for a nice relaxing day.

About forty minutes later I'm sitting in the living room eating a second bowl of cereal, when I pause. I thought I heard something familiar. The approach of an engine, the parking and slamming of a car door. I got up and rushed to the window overlooking the garage, there parked in front of the garage was Mom's car. I rushed back into the living room just in time to see the front door swing open and Mom storming in, her face all flushed.

"Why aren't you walking?" She spoke very loudly.

"I told you, I didn't know the way..."

"This is going to end now. Put your shoes and coat on, and grab your bag. You are going to school today, and to make sure you never miss the bus again, you are going to walk the entire way!!"

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Seven miles.

It doesn't sound so bad when you just say it. But when faced with the prospect of walking those seven miles through the mountains just so you can be at school at the end... Well, needless to say I threw my tantrums long before I started the walk.

Mom would not be moved. I was always rather impressed with how long she held out on my begging that day. But she had her way eventually, and I started walking. She had her usual collection of books with her and the entire morning off. She read through at least one of those books that morning. I walked through mud and snow and slush and ice and gravel, uphill, being humiliated by all the drivers who pointed to me on the side of the road as I walked.

It was as if each of them knew, and they were pointing to their passengers, possibly misbehaving children too, and say: "See... that's what happens to children who misbehave! That's what will happen to you if you talk back to me while I'm driving!!" Oh yes, the psychological trauma was very well played in this revenge.

You might think this was very dangerous for a ten year old boy to walk seven miles through mountain roads to get to school, and my ten year old self would have said, I KNOW!!! But my Mom was never actually that far away. And that may have been the worst part of the whole ordeal.

I walked, thirsty and humiliated, while she drove around me, parked read her book and waiting till I was out of sight again, drive past me park and resume her book. Three hours it took to walk those seven miles. Three painful hours of humiliation at the hand of my Mom, and the worst just became apparent.

As I walked up the long one lane road that held my school at the far end of it, I could see all the buses parked in the lot. I hoped that my bud driver wasn't there to see my shame (She was, asked me about it the next day). As I got closer to the school it became obvious that I would arrive at the height of recess. Which meant that every student of the school was going to get to see being walked to school like a bad little boy. I walked over to the passenger window of the car and begged her not to make me walk in front of the playground. I cant remember all the different tactics that I used to regain entry into the car, but I can remember the one that did the trick in the end. I simply looked at her and said with my biggest weepy eyes, "these kids already have enough reasons to hate me and make fun of me, please don't give them another!"

Totally got it... hook line and sinker!! She drove me what would amount to the length of two city blocks to the front door. I opened my door and she took my arm. When I turned to look at her she said "what did we learn today, Shane?"

"Not to miss the bus, Mom."

"Good, now go to school."

I never missed the bus again... That walk was a bitch!!! The greatest punishment ever devised by my Mom, however, was made on the spur of the moment, and it still rings in my head...

We were celebrating something for my brother... Maybe it was when he made the wrestling team (or I'm just looking for an excuse to post this pic of him), but more likely it was a hot July night and we were celebrating his birthday. I don't know what I did. I'm not denying that I misbehaved, but I cant remember the specific offence that sparked my punishment, the details have long been out shadowed by the shocking punishment that resulted.

We were already halfway through my brothers birthday night when the offence occurred. My Mom, trying not to let my behaviour ruin my brothers birthday decided on the spot that we would continue on to the main event of the night; Superman 4: The Quest for Peace, at the drive-in with all the treats. Oh what do you want, we were twelve and thirteen!! And yes, I had a secret crush on Dolf Lundgren... what of it!!

Anyway... my Mom devised a most clever way to both give my brother what he was promised, and punish me at the same time. We pulled into a spot at the drive-in and positioned the earphones at both windows. Mom and Chuck exchanged a glance and he got out and took Josh with him to get whatever he wanted at the concession stand.

Mom, stayed quiet in the front seat for a couple minutes while I waited for the other shoe to drop in the back.

"Shane, you have to learn when to control both your mouth and your energy. You are going to be punished tonight for your behaviour. Your punishment is that you do not get to watch the movie. I want you to turn around with you back to Chucks seat and keep your eyes out the back window."

"This is your brothers birthday, and you have already tried to ruin it. If you still want to go to Eliches on your birthday, you will sit quietly facing the back of the car through this movie."

At that, the hatchback opened and Chuck grabbed the pillows and blankets that were back there. He laid them across the roof and threw the pillows up too. He then lifted Josh up on the car roof where he watched the entire movie with his Milk Duds and bucket of popcorn.

I meanwhile, sat hunched in the foot well behind the drivers seat stewing and waiting. I was so mad that I was actually being punished, and couldn't imagine what was taking her so long to realize that I was being good now and should be allowed to watch. The longer I sat there the angrier I got. But not being bold enough to actually start more trouble and risk my birthday fun, I instead made hurumphing noises from the back seat. you know what I mean... when a kid wants to make sounds but doesn't want to say any particular words he goes... guhh.... uhh... jeeez... gah...hmph... But no matter what sounds I made they didn't acknowledge me.

They kept their eyes forward and focused on Josh, although I knew my Mom had at least one eye in my direction... I tried a couple times to position myself so I could see pieces of the screen, and inevitably she would look back and give me the "quit-it" eye and I would settle back down.

And that is how I watched one of the most anticipated movies of my 12th summer, hunched in a foot-well not being able to see anything, but being able to hear every single horrible written line. It was sublime torture. It was years before I actually got to watch that movie. And when I did, Mom walked through the room and said "Oh I remember that movie... Isn't it awful!"

"Not nearly as awful as the first time I sat through it... with only the sound..."

"What do you mean dear, what was wrong with the tv the first time you watched it?"

"You don't remember??? You used this movie to torture me!!! And you don't even remember!?!?!"

"When was this? Were you misbehaving?"

Sigh... my Mom... Such a clever woman.

The days my brother died... Day 1.

2009-07-19T13:44:00.000-07:00

Growing up as latchkey kids in a mountain town with less than 700 people, my brother and I had some very strange adventures growing up. Luckily for both of us, we were always together, so if something bad happened, we could get help for the other.

There were five times in my memory that stand out as days that my brother could have very easily died, and very nearly did, but for luck and a little bit of intuition.

On a white winter morning on christmas break, the great blizzard of '82 was taking a pause and my brother and I decided it was the perfect moment to have an outdoor trek. It was our first winter in the duplex, and this was our first time being snowbound. We just had to explore the now foreign territory again.

We walked down to the general store and got penny candy and supplies for mom. On the way back, Josh suggested we take the forbidden road home. Forbidden because the family who lived at the end of it had a very mean dad who yelled at anyone who got too close to his house. We walked up that road until we could see two things, the lights of the grinch's house and the dam to the left that connected at the end of the two roads.

In the summer, this dam held what could barely be described as a lake, more of a pond really... You could walk across it if you were careful and good with balance, but if you lost your balance you had to try to fall in the water, because the other option was about a 20 foot fall to the forest floor below.

As we took a left, away from the house, towards the dam, I wondered if the lake was frozen over, or if we would have to do that precarious balancing act in the snow. Sadly, it turned out to be the latter. The ice was brittle around the edges of the lake and impossible to pass on. The lake was big enough that it was too much to ask for us to go around... plus... there was the danger factor.

As any boys would have, we decided to take the scary balancing act way across and back over to our street. We shuffled slowly across, Josh taking the lead. The lip of the damn was about a foot across and when we got to the middle we had to leap the two foot gap that allowed the spillover. Josh jumped over sure footed and turned to help me. When I lept, my foot slipped a bit on the ice and Josh grabbed me and guided me to safety. My slip had, however, thrown him off balance and once I regained mine, he started to wobble.

Thinking that he was going to go over the bad edge of the damn, I gave him a shove backward and he plunged into the frozen lake, breaking right through the ice.

Being only seven years old, I did the only thing I could think of. I ran the rest of the way off the damn, ran down the road, up the driveway, around the stairs through the front door and hollered at the top of my lungs "JOSH FELL IN THE LAKE!!! HELP!!! JOSH IS IN THE LAKE!!!"

Mom and Chuck were up and out the door quicker than I had ever seen them move, they ran down the driveway all while trying to put their coats and hats and gloves on... I ran alongside crying in shame that I had left him there. We got to the bottom of the driveway and turned up toward the damn, Josh was walking slowly towards us. Shivering and dripping wet, Mom grabbed him and wrapped her jacket around him.

After a very long hot bath for both of us, mom made some chicken noodle soup with mashed potatoes in it and we all sat around the fire. Despite how easy it is for kids to hurt themselves on these adventures, somehow, miraculously, we always lived to do it again...

The first time I heard the music, or Canon in D

2009-07-19T13:37:00.000-07:00

I was in the fifth grade. Marshdale elementry school in Bergin county deep in the Colorado rockies the first time that I understood how music can move the soul.

That should come to quite a shock to some of my readers, well... Mom and Dad mostly. I was raised by two cool hippies that were in rock bands and came from musical families. That is to say, since birth I was constantly surrounded by music. And it instilled in me an appreciation for the craft of making music and truly mastering an instrument.

So, why should I not be moved so deeply by music until well into my 10th year? I'm not sure if I can answer that question. All I can do is tell you what happened, and where I was. And maybe you can tell me.

I was ten years old in the special education program that moved from school to school every year. Third grade was Wilmont Elementary, I don't remember where fourth grade was, but Fifth grade I remember vividly. You will read more stories from fifth grade later.

Marshdale Elementry School was a stark building made mostly of cement and glass that stood like a discarded box among the surrounding mountains and forrests. There were only two other things of interest on the street that are worth note, the school bus terminal on the left hand side right before you got to the school building and a large field on the right side of the street that was home to a herd of about a hundred or so American Buffalo.

I remember many of my childhood classrooms vividly, this one had a large box in the back corner opposite the door. On the side of this large box, there was a door. This was a time-out room. Padded walls and floor. Practically sound proof. And much to the dismay of my teachers, one of my favorite places. I can remember playing many games by myself in that room. I even like to think it helped me develop my imagination.

Like a lot of special education classrooms, there was no one consistent theme in the room. There was the typical math art of times tables and short division, but you could also find the other two "R"s. As well as arts and crafts, balls and jump ropes... like most schools the special ed class rolled all the general education into one classroom. So you had maybe two teachers to teach you all the subjects. While the "normal" kids went from classroom to classroom. When I got to junior high the idea of home rooms was completely foreign to me.

There was one other thing in that room, and it is that item that first moved my soul with music. In a cubical on the side of the room next to the arts and crafts, sat a small white tapedeck and a pair of earphones. There were only five or six tapes to choose from, but I can only ever remember listening to one. Song one, side A: Pachabel's Canon in D.

My experience of music consisted of music made by bands of drummers (my dad), guitarists, bass players, lead singers, and stellar back up guitarist and singer (my mom). And while we listened to a lot of different music through my youth, somehow classical never really caught on... well with two exceptions. This one, and when my brother and I caught chicken pox we rented, and watched a hundred times, the movie Amadeus.

Every day when the teachers would allow us free time, I would rush right over to that little tape deck and stick the tape in and press play... I can remember gripping the earphones and holding them as close as I could to my head so I could hear all those low notes in the beginning...

And then that violin comes in with that string of notes, which is just a quite simple progression up the scale... But something about it strikes hope into me. And I listen to the swells and crescendos. I can remember holding my breath. The tightening of the brow muscles during the high notes. The way it seems without a word to emote feeling. It felt like being injected through the ear with pure joy.

I would sit there with my hands cupped around my ears and while my teachers watched with a curious fascination, I would disappear into another world. There was nothing but the sound. The perfect sounds, and all those different instruments... At the time I was still very ignorant about orchestra's and I couldn't fathom how someone had managed to make something so perfect sounding. The song would end, my eyes would open, the rewind button was pressed and then I would listen again. Then again.

That was the moment. I cant pinpoint any one day specifically. I cant tell you why it drew me day after day. There was something magic in the intricacies and the blend of all the different notes and sounds and instruments. And the way they played with volume... That series of moments with that one song has stuck with me through the rest of my life. When I think of my favorite songs, I always pick musicians that have mastered their instruments. And singers who can write lyrics that move me or speak to me in some way.

If I was ever asked to name the most perfect song ever written, I would say this one. Not because of it's association to weddings, or any ties that it has to modern pop culture. I would pick this song because when it is played there is the same reaction in every listener. Beauty, symmetry, unison, happiness, peace. We all feel the catch in our breath at moments, and the way our heads lilt ever so slightly upward as if these notes could only be made by angels.

The epiphany I had when I was ten years old clutching the earphones to my head was this: It is possible with music to inspire, and create joy and happiness without ever saying a word.

Oh Pure and Radiant Heart

2009-06-29T22:13:00.001-07:00

As an avid reader, it is seldom that I come across a book that moves my soul and my way of thinking... and even rarer still is a book like that a work of fiction. This book now holds a special place on my shelves, and it has been dogeared and highlighted to no end... Needless to say, I don't lend this copy out.

The first time I heard of this book was in a review in EW magazine, I read the review in which the journalist used the following quote from the book. I was so moved by it that for the first and only time in my life, I put that magazine down and rushed right out to the store and bought the book.

"Even if there were dangers, even if the rivers and seas and the fish that swam them were flowing with mercury, forests were being felled and deserts turned into strip mines, there was nothing to do but to trust. If she had been given a choice before she was conceived , say to exist in chaos or not to exist at all: Chaos, she would have said. She would have said, not without sadness of course, still: let me come. Let me watch as all things fall apart."

The story is a fascinating look at today's American Society through the eyes of the mysteriously alive again fathers of the Atom Bomb. The research alone that must have gone into this book is staggering to think about. Covering such fascinating subjects as WWII, nuclear development, history, chemical engineering, psychology, botany, counter culture, government politicking, resurrection, military hit squads, corporate security forces for rent, the search for truth, atonement, love, hatred, fear and of course the Christian Coalition.

But it is not the subject matter that spoke to me the most... it was the beauty of the language. Rarely have I read a book so many times and still felt my breath catch at the cadence and the prose, at times, it feels almost like the most beautiful poetry I have ever read.

Let the observations and snippets of non-essential dialogue from the book speak for themselves... What? You know I said it was highlighted for a reason... you knew this was coming...

" Also they know that many of the customs and rituals with which we fill out time are just that. So many routine acts seem invented to use up the day."

"What astounds me is the blindness of you people now. A civilization that is blind to itself. I mean BLIND. In my day there was ignorance too: ignorance is timeless. But at least we were ashamed of it."

"Reality shows, which he claimed reminded him of the circus freak shows of yesteryear. They took place of the Siamese twins and deformed fetuses in pickle jars that had long been outlawed."

"The government talks in words that make horror trivial. But the people talk in words that make the trivial horrible."

"Joy, maybe when you don't have it yourself, when you don't have the grace, you look for it to shine out of someone nearby... We're so many, we're so hard to distinguish from each other, but we long to be distinguished... We want to be dear to the leaves and the sky. I know what it is to long, we say across the air of time, I know what feeling is. We want to think we will be there, always with the others that were and will be. We want to glow in the dark."

"In the end, saying that happiness is superior to pleasure is an insult to the body. Also, it assumes the mind and body are separate."

"The tendency of the culture to pathologize is so compulsive and so chronic that it might itself be described as a pathology. In other words, the culture is pathologically prone to pathologize, that is, as it were, pathologically pathological."

"Was there a difference between waiting for enlightenment and waiting to be entertained?"

"Instead of reason anymore there was only movement. It was the movement of crowds, to whom faith substitutes for education, to whom facts were only a competing myth and the subject of mockery. It was the movement of those who believed."

" Choice could be taken away, and then you became an object: but far from being dangerous that moment when choice disappeared was when danger also vanished, and there was nothing you could do but submit... For after all it was not ego or a conviction of your own importance that made life worth living but whether you could see how perfect the world had always been without you. It was not to despair at this though, not to run, not to fear, not to fight; it was if, instead of running or fighting, out of the overwhelming nearness of the world, your could finally make something that could be glimpsed from afar."

The particulars of the story are so absurd that they make perfect sense. Scientists at the height of the A-bomb testing are transported to New Mexico 2004. After reading about the rest of their lives that they hadn't yet lived, they all began to understand where the world had taken their work. And so they embark on a global nuclear disarmament journey that takes them from the site of the Trinity test in New Mexico to Okinawa to Washington DC and many fascinating and utterly horrifying places in between.

The culmination of the book is so fantastical and sublime that I can barely summon the words to describe how it made me feel... It was magical and inexplicable and so completing, that when I picked the book up for the second time, I could barely remember anything about the end, other than it was undefinable, unanswering and right. When I reached the end again, I was moved for entirely new reasons. And again, it was perfect.

The book is written with as much fact as fiction. Thrown together they create a clash between what could be and what is, between what it means to have faith and what it means to have logic. The whole idea that any person that comes back to life is, without a doubt, the messiah, and the utter unwillingness of the most holy to lose control of the faithful. With such creatively directed social commentary, factual historical information, and the most fascinating grasp of the English language of any contemporary writer I've read, Oh Pure and Radiant Heart, by Lydia Millet is without question, the best book written so far this century. Read it.

The Death of a King?

2009-06-25T16:16:00.000-07:00

This is going to be a post of an unpopular opinion, be forewarned.

Today reports that Michael Jackson has died have surfaced on every news station available. I would feel sad about such news, except that Michael Jackson died for me many years ago.

Like many people, the album "Thriller" helped define my childhood. It was the first (and only) vinyl record that my brother ever bought. And we played that thing for what seemed like eternity. I still know all the words twenty years later. His "Bad" and "Dangerous" albums seemed to carry my thorough my teen years and fascinated me with amazing dancing and storytelling mini-movies. It wouldn't be unfair in saying that he helped me develop an appreciation for the visual art in music.

Then he lost it, and he lost me.

It was the one two punch of the child molesting charges (twice, mind you), and the inexplicable drive to physically dissect himself and create a monster with the voice of an angel. I stopped buying his music around the time of his 12th nose job/face lift. I just couldn't find any logic in giving money to a man who was only going to use it to hurt himself.

I am not opposed to plastic surgery in any way, but here was a clear case of a man who hated himself so much that he physically couldn't stand his own face for the majority of his adult life. What bothers me most about that is that no one stopped him. It was an obvious cry for help, and we did nothing but watch. Because he had money he was able to sidestep any and all concerns that his doctors had. He butchered himself and we bought it for $14.99 and some cellophane.

Then we have the child molestation charges. I don't know whether or not I think he was innocent. The logical side of me says that he did it. The child in me says he didn't. We may never know the truth, but here is what I do know. He consistently chose to put himself into situations where child molesting could occur. He chose to act like a child. He chose to have inappropriate relationships with children. No one forced him into a room alone with a child, those were his decisions, and while we may never know if he was guilty we can without a single doubt know that he was responsible for creating the situation.

The fact that he never saw anything wrong with that, well it just makes me think he was trying to hide something. And then it happened again. And that was it for me. After going through that horror trial the first time any innocent man would have taken care to avoid putting himself in the same situations again. So, there it is, I guess I do believe he was a child molester. He just had the money to get away with it.

Which brings me to my last point, his children. While it is horrible that they have lost their father, I sadly believe that with him gone, they may actually have a shot at a semi-normal life now. I never trusted him with them. From the moment he announced that he was having kids, I was afraid for them. He was just so mentally messed up from both his own childhood and from decades of people catering to him and bowing to his every whim that I felt any children exposed to him for long durations of time would be equally as messed up.

My secret theory about him is that his father Joe castrated him at a young age ensuring that the money making voice of an angel would never fade. While I have no proof or evidence for this theory the physical pieces seem to fit. Castrated boys voices never drop, like Micheal's. Castrated boys remain lithe and sinewy like a pre-teen for the rest of their lives due to the removal of the testies and the testosterone they provide. Castrated boys never learn how to fully operate sexually due to the obvious lack of parts. Castrated boys historically segregated themselves from the rest of the population and spent most of their time with other eunichs (ie: young boys who are not sexually developed). Again, this is simply my theory to explain how Michael Jackson could have come to be the man he was.

Regardless of all the problems he had, he was without question one of the most brilliant musicians of the last century. His voice, his rythms, and most of all his songs have spoken to each generation, and I have a feeling that they will continue speaking to generations for many years to come. So, I do feel sadness in his passing. Sadness at what could have been prevented, sadness at the loss of the music yet to come, but most of all I feel the sadness for the boy who wanted so desperatly to entertain us all and this tear is for that boy, who we lost many years ago.

The Goldschlager Incident

2009-06-20T23:44:00.000-07:00

I have never been a real drinker.

My first drink of alcohol was on my 21st birthday. A group of friends had taken me out to West Hollywood for my legal birthday dinner and drinks. We went to a restaurant called "The Cobalt Cantina" that was very shii shii and froo froo. My first drink was a Midori Sour.

As we ate our dinner and made our fun, I noticed a face a couple of tables over. I have always been a huge film fanatic, and as evidence of that, none of you will recognize the name of the person sitting at that table. Her name is Joanna Gleason and you would recognize her from Mr Hollands Opus, Sex and the City, Hannah and her Sisters, Boogie Nights, The Women and countless TV guest spots. Well as she got up to leave she had to walk right behind my chair to get to the front door, so as she got within a foot of my chair, I turned to her and said "Oh Ms. Gleason, I'm such a fan of yours. I first saw you in "Into the Woods" and have been a fan ever since".

Noticing the birthday cake on the table she asked if it was my birthday, to which I replied "yes mam, I am 21 today." She stepped back with a look of shock on her face. Almost in an unbelieving tone she asked "Oh My, that show was so many years ago, how did you ever see it?" To which I replied "thank god for PBS, and quality programming!" At that she threw back her head and laughed.

That is how on my 21st birthday I got a star of stage and screen to sing me happy birthday.

After that I drank seldomly on occasion. Somehow I always got put into the designated driver role. This was after the Tijuana Escapades of my youth, during which I also never drank, but that is another story. I joined the Navy when I was 22 and always thought I cant get drunk because someone will find out I'm gay, or I wont be able to control myself from hitting on some straight homophobe, or a million other scenarios.

So for the most part I abstained. There are people that I have known for years that have never seen me drunk. And if they did, they didn't know it. Well, this is about my most outrageous night of drinking, so I guess I should get to the point, shouldn't I.

It was Pink Saturday of 2001's Pride Weekend. My best friend AJ and I had planned a weekend of debaucheries and fittingly stocked the bar with several bottles of liquor and beer. We had been out clubbing the night before and at our traditional brunch at Orphan Andy's AJ decided that he absolutely needed a new outfit to wear out on the town that night and that was what we were going to do after Brunch.

Now, I hate clothes shopping. First off nothing ever fits me. It's like the fashion industry thinks that anyone that is my height is super skinny and anyone with my waist size is 5'9". So I never have any luck. Oh, I find things I like, but never in my size. So when we descended on Union Square for his shopping junket I tagged along mostly out of a lack of something better to do.

Seven hours later...

No, I mean he shopped for an outfit for seven hours. I'm not kidding. And only at the high end ritzy retailers. If I never set foot in Kenneth Cole again I will be just fine with that. So, after seven hours of doing the thing I hate most, I was not in what you would call a good mood. Quite the opposite in fact. By the time I got home my jaw hurt from all the clenching and the biting of my tongue that I had been doing. I was pissy and bitter and angry.

Seeing this, AJ went to his room with his boys in tow and changed into his special new outfit, which looked just like all the other outfits in his closet. When he came out he announced that they were going to go eat some food before they closed the streets off for the Pink Party. I said FINE! AJ looked back at me as they were descending the stairs and said "Meet me in front of the glass coffin at 9:00pm. And you better be in a better mood dammit."

After he had gone I was still stewing in my juices a bit. I thought about the night ahead and how much it would suck if I was pissed all night. So I decided to have a drink to take the edge off my mood. We had bought a 24 oz. bottle of a wretched drink called Goldschlager (so named because of the 24karat gold flakes floating in cinnamon flavored liquor). I grabbed a shot glass and poured a stiff one for myself. I didn't realize it would be like drinking cinnamon candy, and as soon as I realized it I cracked open a beer to chase the taste right out of my mouth.

I'm not exactly sure how, but within twenty minutes or so, both the beer bottle and the Goldschlager bottle were completely empty. I was now ready to be entertained on the street.

I got dressed in my Ghetto-Fabulous matching shiny blue denim suit and blue plaid shirt and made my way out the door. I didn't feel horribly drunk yet, and I still have memories of everything that happened that night, but between my front door and the prearranged meeting place four blocks away, the liquor kicked in.

AJ and his friends were already waiting for me when I galloped up to them. I had some sort of stupid look on my face or something because the first words out of AJ's mouth were "Oh god, what did you do?" With a drunken lisp I replied "I drank the whole bottle!!"

"What!!?!?!" said AJ with a combination of horror and glee playing on his face.

"I was thirsty, Don't judge me!!!" Was all I could think to reply with. And then "we may need more Goldschlager..."

I lasted a solid two hours wandering around the crowded throngs that night. The first thing AJ did was force feed me pizza... God, no wonder I hate that places pizza... memories... By 11:30 pm they were all ready to head to Club Universe, just one problem stood in the way... a seriously drunk giant.

As they were walking out of the Pink Party and past our street my friend Carl, who had been with us for most of the day, asked AJ if they were taking me home before going to the club. I was walking and talking, but don't ask what I was saying because I'm pretty sure it wasn't an actual language. But I was smiling, so nobody minded much.

AJ, looked at Carl, then at me, then back to Carl, and with just the slightest bit of anger and disgust said "He knows where he lives. He can find his own way home, shit... I'm goin dancing!" I know, such a bitch!!! Well somehow Carl managed to talk him into, at the very least, escorting me to the front door. I got inside and told them to have fun for me, and then turned and crawled up the stairs to my room.

I laid down on my bed and turned the TV on to distract my senses. But before I could even take off my ghetto-fabulousness I felt the rising. I stood up, sat back down, stood up again, grabbed the wall, opened the bedroom door and felt the wall all the way down the hall to the bathroom. I then proceeded to sit down indian style in front of the toilet. Here is a sick trick, sit that way in front of a toilet, get your head in close, and I promise you, even if your not drunk you will feel like you want to throw up.

Well, that's what I did, and that's exactly what happened. Gross golden pizza filled yarking. Like I was throwing up someones bad attempt at making high fashion jewelery out of pizza toppings. Not pretty. I ended up sitting like that, occasionally dry heaving gold flakes, until at least 3:00am. I know that's roughly what time it was because AJ and Carl and Amanda (AJ's Lesbian sister) got back from the club.

The rest of that night gets a little fuzzy. Mostly because I went to sleep right there curled around the base of the toilet. I remember Amanda bringing me some water, a blanket and a pillow. I remember Carl rubbing my back for a while. I remember AJ pissing over my head trying not to miss the bowl and hit me.

I woke with the sun that pride Sunday and stumble-crawled to my bed. Around 11:00 that morning AJ was up and getting ready to head down to the festival. I remember waking up and thinking "shouldn't my head be hurting?" That was the only real thing I learned during this incident; I don't get hangovers. Good to know.

The rest of Pride was all the gay fun you can imagine, I spent the rest of that Pride day turning a bright lobster red and enjoying the millions of good looking men. Below are the only two pictures from that night. In the first one you can see the look on my face just after I told AJ that I was thirsty... and the second picture is his response to that statement... Oh and just to embarrass the hell out of AJ, the "very special" outfit that he had been shopping for for seven hours... The orange-red shirt he is wearing... he got it at Old Navy!!! So much for him being all shii shii and froo froo!!! Hahahaha...

The secret about boot camp...

2009-06-20T23:20:00.000-07:00

On your very first night of boot camp... you learn a cool trick that comes in handy in all aspects of life... How to find good sleep at any time at the drop of a hat. Below are examples of my days in boot camp.

Up at 4:00am every morning and not allowed in bed until 10:00pm at night, and very little of that being free time, you learn very quickly the value of a good power nap. Keep in mind, this was a unexplainable lull when I grabbed my camera and started snapping. As just so you know, the rule is: No recruits on beds or chairs during operating hours.

My favorite Navy slogan that I still use today in both regular and dirty minded company alike is "Nutts to Butts, people".

The night we got off the plane, shorn of hair, all in sneakers and matching blue navy sweatsuits, sitting in the hallway of the processing station, getting our first glimpse of military efficiency, we were told to spread our legs our in front of us in a single file line on the floor and gets our nutts right up to the guy in front of us's butt.

As hot as that may sound to many of my readers, keep in mind that this was at 2:00am, just off a plane, in a completely foreign environment and we were so exhausted that the reason for positioning us in such a way became shockingly obvious as we each succumbed to sleep and passed out on the back of the man in front of us.

Nice instant team building right there... plus quite a night to go through.

And just for the record... Yes, I can sleep while standing up. I may have to lean against something however...

"Social Activism"

2009-05-25T15:24:00.000-07:00

First... the idea...

With all that has been going on with the gay community over the last year and a half, I have had a lot of time to think about how we got to where we are now. I wanted to somehow show in one piece of art the strides we have made and the miles left ahead of us.

This piece is San Francisco focused; due in large part to the fact that 30 years after his death Harvey Milk has become a pop-icon. Living just a few doors down from what was once Harveys camera shop influences how I see our community.

I am presenting my piece to you in bits and pieces, so you can see all the detail, and not have to ask me why it took almost four months to make. It is to date, my only art piece that has required detailed painting.

These four photographs represent the beauty that is San Francisco.

2''x4'' canvas

I wanted to present a mysticism and generous demeanor in Harvey both as an homage to his own beliefs and as a tribute to the idea of oneness in community and spirit that I typically associate with the Buddha.

7''x5'' canvas

I took this photograph at the special red carpet premiere of the movie "Milk". While the cameras rolled on the star studded premier, between every Harvey Milk backdrop were crowds of protesters trying to sway public opinion on an anti-gay ballot measure. The timing of these events seems so coincidental that it borders on brilliant marketing. You can also see the silhouettes of the flowers representing Harveys penchant for Hawaiian shirts along the top of the marquee.

Another idea was provided in an issue of "the Advocate" (I think, and if it was one of the other gay focused publications, I'm sorry, I cant find it again, so I'm guessing) in which there was both an article talking about a newer gay icon Margaret Cho, and her new show, and an article about the death of Jesse Helms and how it looks like the old hatreds are a dying breed, giving me hope, that one day...

I found the symmetry of these two photos being published in the same magazine too tempting to pass up.

Living right on the corner of Castro and 18th I have been witness to some of the most interesting, unexpected, and angering protests this country has know in decades. Over the last year there were nights of quite sit-in's, there were nights of loud screaming and drumms, and there was even the scary night when the gays got really vicious and had to have the christian sit-in group exavuated for safety. I wanted to find a photo that encompassed all of those emotions.

5''x5'' box canvas

This is the first open gay man ever on the cover of Time magazine. I was not even one month old when this issue came out. Like Harvey, there have been many heros' to the cause, and to be honest, this was the first piece of this painting that I got. Everything else, stems from this.

The new modern day gay icon.

And now, I present you in its entirety, "Social Activism"

30''x40'' canvas

More key art...

2009-05-25T14:50:00.001-07:00

I havent quite figured out what to call this one yet... it's bigger than all the other key art that I have made... What do you think?

missing you a tad today...

2009-04-06T19:46:00.000-07:00

"And So Is Love"

And you huh?
You do huh?
We let it in
We give it out
And in the end
What's it all about?

It must be love
I give you my
I give you my
You give me your
You give me your joy

We used to say
"Ah Hell, we're young"
But now we see that life is sad
And so is love
Ooh baby live your life for love
Ooh baby live your life for love

We used to say
"Ah Hell, we're young"
But now we see that life is sad
And so is love
Ooh baby for the sake of love
Ooh baby for the sake of love
And whatever happens
What really matters?
It's all we've got
Isn't that enough?

Life is sad and so is love
You let it slip
You let it slip
I love you more
I love you more for it
Life is sad and so is love
All for love

Just for the sake of love
You set me free
I set you free
-Kate Bush-

Manual Labor

2009-03-02T17:25:00.000-08:00

When I got laid off from my last job managing the soup kitchen, one of the women who volunteered for me asked if I needed work. She had some things she wanted to do around the house and she was willing to pay me... So on and off over the last several months I have been going to her house and working.

These are the only photos I thought to take before I started, and I took them with my phone:

Right in the front door is this downstairs room which she wanted to be where she and her dogs can relax and watch movies.

The downstairs room is right across from the front door, between them lies the "L" stairwell. A place that was dark and rather dangerous with two large dogs running down the stairs with you.

This small foyer is at the top of the stairs and leads to the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen and living room.

The Bathroom

The kitchen. She had started several projects and then got sidelined by an injury and they just never got done.

The living room was all white and we weren't sure how to put all the furniture in. The following photo's show you the work that I have done... If you know anyone who wants me to do their place... I am always looking for work!

Oscar Winners 2009

2009-02-18T14:58:00.000-08:00

I know I havent blogged in a while... and I promise to explain it all soon... but in the meantime I will leave you with my Oscar predictions for this year:

Frank Langella - FROST/NIXON

Sean Penn - MILK

Brad Pitt - THE CURIOUS CASE OF BENJAMIN BUTTON

Mickey Rourke - THE WRESTLER

This is a great list of actors and the favorite is Penn for is amazing immersion into Gay Politico Harvey Milk. Both Jenkins and Langella gave performances of a lifetime this year, and Brad Pitt reminded us all why we loved him so much. However, the academy voters are suckers for a story and this year they have been given a rare opportunity to travel back in time twenty years and save their prodigal son. Which is why the feel good vote this year will go to Mickey Rourke.

Josh Brolin - MILK

Robert Downey Jr. - TROPIC THUNDER

Philip Seymour Hoffman - DOUBT

Heath Ledger - THE DARK KNIGHT

Michael Shannon - REVOLUTIONARY ROAD

Hoffman and Brolin, while both brilliant actors, are the usual suspects filling out the line up this year while the honor of being nominated will go to Shannon. I love that the Academy voters nominated Downey, and in my heart of hearts I wish he could win. His recent resurrection, however, pales in comparison to the very real loss of death. And since it is one of the first awards to go in the line-up, we will be getting the sad victory out of the way at the get go. Thanks for everything, Heath Ledger.

Anne Hathaway - RACHEL GETTING MARRIED

Angelina Jolie - CHANGELING

Melissa Leo - FROZEN RIVER

Meryl Streep - DOUBT

Kate Winslet - THE READER

Oh how I wish Ann Hathaway would walk with the statue this year. Who doesn't love her? While Jolie was mesmerizing in The Changeling it is a performance that everyone stopped talking about months ago. Melissa Leo has the honor of being nominated this year, and for her 15th nomination in 30 years Meryl Streep is showing us what we can expect in the future from this years winner Kate Winslet, who after being nominated 6 times in 13 years should finally get her first damned Oscar.

Amy Adams - DOUBT

Penélope Cruz - VICKY CRISTINA BARCELONA

Viola Davis - DOUBT

Taraji P. Henson - THE CURIOUS CASE OF BENJAMIN BUTTON

Marisa Tomei - THE WRESTLER

One best supporting actress Oscar winner; Tomei. One two time best supporting actress nominee; Adams. One best actress nominee; Cruz. And two " that one girl from that one thing...", Henson and Davis. This race is always a toss up, hence Oscar winner Tomei for "My Cousin Vinny"?!!? But this year I think the vote will go to Penelope Cruz. Every time she speaks her own language in a movie, she is phenomenal. I think she will win because of "Volver".

BOLT
KUNG FU PANDA

WALL-E

I think Entertainment Weekly put this race best when they said... "um... yeah. WALL-E". Personally I think it should have been nominated for best picture... but thats just me.

CHANGELING

THE DUCHESS

REVOLUTIONARY ROAD

I know... what the hell is this category even about... right? There are several categories that make people just go... what is that?? I will try to explain what they are for. Well, here it is boiled down to it's bare bones: The Art Director controls every visual aspect of a film, from set, to props to costumes. Typically this award tends to go for period pieces and musicals. With this line up I would say The Duchess and The Changeling were tied for second place, but the clear winner will be Benjamin Button if for no other reason than they had to differentiate the passing of a century.

CHANGELING

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

Another category that stumps most people outside of the Hollywood limelight is Cinematography... what is it exactly? The Cinematographer is responsible for all lighting, lens choices, composition, exposure, filtration, film selection and basically the overall visual effects. The best way to think about this category is; which film made the most interesting photograph. So, with that in mind, I would say that Benjamin Button and The Dark Knight will duke it out.

AUSTRALIA

THE DUCHESS

REVOLUTIONARY ROAD

This category is as obvious as it sounds... best costumes. Typically the academy voters have picked period pieces and fantasy movies over modern movies like Milk and Revolutionary Road. I would say the front runners are Benjamin Button and The Duchess with the later taking home what may be it's only award of the night.

ENCOUNTERS AT THE END OF THE WORLD

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

This is a really tough race to call. David Fincher who made Benjamin Button, Zodiac, Fight Club, The Game, Se7en and has never been nominated. Ron Howard who has already won in this category for A Beautiful Mind. Gus Van Sant who makes some really stunning quiet independent movies that are always on the awards lists (Elephant, My Own Private Idaho, To Die For, Drugstore Cowboy), and was nominated in this category once before with Good Will Hunting (I truly think Gus deserves to win the most). Stephen Daldry, whose last two movies (The Hours, Billy Elliott) also got him nominated. Meaning of the four movies he has made, three have gotten him nominated. And finally the fan favorite, Danny Boyle who has brought us Trainspotting, A Life Less Ordinary, 28 Days Later and Sunshine is up for his first Oscar.

THE BETRAYAL (NERAKHOON)

THE GARDEN

MAN ON WIRE

TROUBLE THE WATER

Every now and then I like a good documentary. Of these five, three speak to me, and mind you, I have seen none of them. Werner Herzog is a respected name and that may win some votes, but the subject matter doesn't pull you in as much as Trouble The Water. A woman holding on for her life managed to keep her camera rolling through Katrina and the life after. Man On Wire is the most buzzed about, but mostly due to one silent moment near the end when a man walks a line across our still healing past, suspended above New York between what were once two great towers.

THE CONSCIENCE OF NHEM EN

THE FINAL INCH

SMILE PINKI

THE WITNESS - FROM THE BALCONY OF ROOM 306

The way this award usually works is either it is the most heartbreaking subject matter imaginable and everyone votes for it when they read the synopsis, or, they vote for the one that every one is talking about (which happens a lot in the smaller categories). In this race, two are feel good, helping people shorts, one is a mans recollection of the MLK assassination, which may help its chances in this historic year. The one the will win however is the most heartbreaking, The Conscience of Nhem En is about a sixteen-year-old soldier who was instructed to photograph the tens of thousands of citizens who passed through a processing center on the way to their execution.

The Baader Meinhof Complex

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

This one again, just as it sounds. The movie with the most layers and most seamless transitions wins... In this race it comes down to The Dark Knight vs. Benjamin Button again. But Slumdog Millionaire could split their votes.

The Class

Departures

Revanche

Waltz With Bashir

This race has two movies that stand alone. The Class is a year in the life of a French middle school classroom that has some inventive takes on teaching, and Waltz With Bashir, an animated diary of a soldiers search for his forgotten past through war torn 80's Israel.

HELLBOY II: THE GOLDEN ARMY

I would give this award to The Dark Knight, if for no other reason than with just makeup alone they created a new horrifying iconic look for an old Hollywood standard.

DEFIANCE

"Jai Ho" - SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

WALL-E

This category not only covers all the music written for the movie, but also the selection of songs written by other artists. The only type of music that is excluded from this category is the original song. Though Slumdog is the favorite in many categories, here is will be between Danny Elfman (he has been nominated four times with no wins) for Milk, And Thomas Newman (he has been nominated ten times with no wins) for WALL-E.

"Down to Earth" - WALL-E

"O Saya" - SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

Again, this vote will go the opposite way of Best Score. If Slumdog takes Score, WALL-E will take Song. If WALL-E wins Score (which is what I think will happen, I mean no talking till halfway through the movie!) Than Jai Ho will win Best Song.

La Maison en Petits Cubes

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

As up in the air as this race is I think Slumdog Millionaire is going to take it. Milk and Benjamin Button are close. I think if Milk won it wouldn't be an upset. But if Benjamin Button wins over Slumdog it will be akin to Shakespeare in Love over Saving Private Ryan. An UPSET.

LAVATORY - LOVESTORY

OKTAPODI

PRESTO

THIS WAY UP

This one I always take a shot in the dark on. It's between Lavatory - Lovestory and Presto. And judging by the history of love from the academy toward films with this kind of animation (a'la Wallace & Grommit) I am calling it for Presto.

AUF DER STRECKE (ON THE LINE)

MANON ON THE ASPHALT

NEW BOY

THE PIG

SPIELZEUGLAND (TOYLAND)

Again, this is one of those... wtf boring catergories, because, well really... where would the public get to see all of these shorts? I'm going to say New Boy takes the prize based soley on the fact that the academy loves to watch a cute kid go through struggle. Upset could go to ToyLand, cuz of that cute moptop german boy asking where the jew's toyland "camp" is... oy.

WANTED

If you were wondering, Sound Editing is responsible for creating and recording every sound you hear in the movie and every word of dialogue, with the exception of the score and songs. The sound of the leaves to the marching of an army, they create and add all sound. Because somewhere deep down I feel like the academy wants to honor every movie, I am going to say that Iron Man will win. Although it could just as easily go to any of the other nominees... except Wanted... who bought that nomination???

SLUMDOG MILLIONAIRE

WALL-E

WANTED

Right along the same vein of Sound Editing is this completely redundant award for Sound Mixing which is... anyone... anyone... hello? It's an award to honor the guy that took all the recorded sounds, dialoge, voice over, ambiant music and sound effects and lays them down so that they overlap correctly so the movies sound is in sync with the visuals. Like the Editing Catergory one of these goes to the movie that wins everything, and the other one goes to the one that gets nothing. Which means this one is called for Slumdog Millionaire. And could be potentially be defeated by any of its compition... except Wanted... that movie sucked ass.

IRON MAN

Visual Effects is for everything that wasnt in the shot when they shot it. Light, shadows, props, greenscreen, special effects. Basicaly you can think of this as the award for the best special effects. This is a toss up between Iron Man and The Dark Knight, but I'm going to call it for Batman... I'm sure the academy members feel a bit of shame over the omission in the best picture catergory.

DOUBT